Personal life
Xu Qing's first boyfriend during her senior year of high school was Wu Ruofu, who was then with the Central Military Commission Political Work Department Song and Dance Troupe. They began dating after Xu was accepted by both the German Department of the University of International Relations and the Performance Department of the Beijing Film Academy. She chose the latter because of him: "I just wanted to be closer to his circle. If I studied German, our professional paths would never cross." The relationship lasted for three years.
In 1990, while filming Life on a String, Xu was rumored to be involved with director Chen Kaige, which precipitated Chen's divorce from Hung Huang. In 1991, Xu starred in Ripples Across Stagnant Water with You Yong, who ended his relationship with Xiao Xue and began dating Xu. Later, while filming At the Foot of the Imperial City with You Yong and Wang Zhiwen, Xu broke up with You and started a two-year relationship with Wang. On The Jin Xing Show, Xu explained that the breakup with Wang was due to her inability to separate work from their personal lives, although they remained friends thereafter. She mentioned that she decided not to date actors anymore, and her subsequent partners were mostly unknown to the public.
In 1995, after filming The Emperor's Shadow, Xu moved to Singapore and took a three-year hiatus from acting, returning in 1998 with the publication of a photo collection. That same year, a Chinese newspaper reported that a wealthy Singaporean businessman had "kept" a female star, forbidding her from acting or dating for three years, and Xu was suspected to be the subject due to her prolonged stay in Singapore.
In 1997, Xu met Liu Bo, a businessman in the culture industry who invested 1 million RMB in Xu's photo collection and invited Yu Qiuyu to write the preface. The following year, Liu began dating Xu before divorcing his wife. Liu, born in Zhuzhou, Hunan, had a public resume claiming he entered Wuhan University's Chinese Department at 14, earned a master's degree from Hunan University of Traditional Chinese Medicine, and a PhD in philosophy under Ji Xianlin at Peking University. However, a 2017 investigation by Tencent News revealed Liu graduated with a technical secondary school diploma from Hunan University of Traditional Chinese Medicine and briefly studied at a writers' class at Wuhan University funded by a Zhuzhou newspaper where he worked then. He obtained his PhD from Peking University's Department of Oriental Studies, reportedly through his personal connection with Ji Xianlin while his 2000 dissertation lacking academic standards. Xu and Liu broke up in 2002 because, according to Xu, "he became arrogant after becoming a businessman, which I didn't like." She decided to leave after overhearing Liu falsely claim familiarity with Chow Yun-fat and his wife during a business call. In 2003, Liu fled the country due to debts; in 2014, Interpol issued a red notice for him on fraud charges. In 2017, Liu died of a heart attack in Japan.
In 2004, Xu was reported to be dating a Guangdong businessman surnamed Su. Their on-and-off relationship lasted until around 2010. During this period, Xu was rumored to be involved with a married poet, leading her to turn to Buddhism due to her troubled love life.
In 2006, a magazine published an article revealing the extramarital affair between the disgraced China Construction Bank president Wang Xuebing and an actress (alias Song Jingjing). Southern Metropolis Weekly reported that the unnamed actress was Xu Qing, adding that Xu's father had remarried a woman younger than Xu. Xu sued the weekly's owner The Nanfang Daily, which later issued an apology, acknowledging the lack of sufficient evidence for their report. In August 2009, on the talkshow A Date with Luyu, Xu denied her relationship with Wang again during her promotion of The Founding of a Republic, where she plays Song Ching-ling: "Would a country let a banker's mistress play the role of the nation's mother?" In a 2014 interview with a magazine, Xu mentioned that Wang called her after his release from prison, commending her for handling the rumors with dignity. In 2017, the Central Party School Press published a collection of interviews with corrupt officials, where Wang Xuebing's description of his actress lover (alias Anna) is widely believed to be Xu.