New Mom Can't Seem To Stop Crying After Baby For Reasons That Move Me To Tears
Sasha Alonzo 3/3/2016
Motherhood is a lifelong journey that is filled ups and downs. As one blogger had her first child she realized there are many things that our mothers never told us.
The Blogging Mom
Natasha Craig is the voice behind Confessions of a Teenage Bride, a blog in which she chronicles her experiences as a young wife and mother. Her post "10 Things Your Mother Never Told You" describes what she says is,
"...The most exhausting, life changing, heart wrenching, but undescribably rewarding journey of my life."
Her post is about what many mothers experience when trying to provide the best life possible for their children.
Tons of Tears
There will be crying, not only by the child but plenty of tears from your own eyes.
"You made her cry... a lot. She cried when you found out she was pregnant. She cried as she gave birth to you. She cried when she first held you. She cried with happiness. She cried with fear. She cried with worry. She cried because she feels so deeply for you. She felt your pain and your happiness and she shared it with you, whether you realized it or not."
The emotional journey of raising a child is hard. However with the tears comes laughter that outweighs the sadness.
With Love Comes Sacrifice
When you become a mother, you have decided to dedicate yourself to your child's life.
"She wanted that last piece of pie. But when she saw you look at it with those big eyes and lick your mouth with that tiny tongue, she couldn't eat it. She knew it would make her much happier to see your little tummy be filled than hers."
Mothers, more often than not, put their child's needs ahead of their own. It's a selfless love that never ceases to amaze.
Working Through The Pain
Emotional and physical pain will come and go as your baby grows into a tiny adult before your eyes.
"It hurt. When you pulled her hair, it hurt; when you grabbed her with those sharp fingernails that were impossible to cut, it hurt; when you bit her while drinking milk, that hurt, too. You bruised her ribs when you kicked her from her belly; you stretched her stomach out for nine months; you made her body contract in agonizing pain as you entered this world."
Nobody feels pain like a mother, it truly hurts to watch their children cry. Their motherly instincts kick in and they take on their child's pain to try to lessen the blow.
A Mother's Touch
The worrying never stops for a mother, resulting in many sleepless nights.
"She was always afraid. From the moment you were conceived, she did all in her power to protect you. She became your mama bear. She was that lady who wanted to say no when the little girl next door asked to hold you, and who cringed when she did, because in her mind no one could keep you as safe as she herself could. Her heart skipped two beats with your first steps. She stayed up late to make sure you got home safe, and woke up early to see you off to school. With every stubbed toe and little stumble, she was close by; she was ready to snatch you up with every bad dream or late night fever. She was there to make sure you were OK."
The constant urge to keep your little one safe and sound starts before they even enter the world.
A Work In Progress
Perfection seems almost impossible for any woman to achieve, especially when it comes to motherhood.
"She knows she's not perfect. She is her own worst critic. She knows all her flaws and sometimes hates herself for them. She is hardest on herself when it comes to you, though. She wanted to be the perfect mom, to do nothing wrong -- but because she is human, she made mistakes. She is probably still trying to forgive herself for them. She wishes with her whole heart that she could go back in time and do things differently, but she can't, so be kind to her, and know she did the best she knew how to do."
Maternal instincts are inherent in most women but there is always the fear of not being good enough. Providing a lifetime of love sometimes does not seem to be enough.
The Sleepless Nights
The nights no longer belong to you anymore, they are now filled with midnight bottle feedings and rocking the baby to sleep.
"She watched you as you slept. There were nights when she was up 'til 3:00 a.m. praying that you would finally fall asleep. She could hardly keep her eyes open as she sang to you, and she would beg you to "please, please fall asleep." Then, when you finally fell asleep, she would lay you down and all her tiredness would disappear for a short second as she sat by your bedside looking down at your perfect cherub face, experiencing more love than she knew was possible, despite her worn-out arms and aching eyes."
A new schedule begins once a child enters the world. The sleepless nights are a plenty, but the smiles and giggles from your baby make the exhaustion fade away.
The Painful Truth
Love at first sight happens the moment you set eyes on your newborn. All you want to do is ensure a lifetime of happiness for your child.
"She carried you a lot longer than nine months. You needed her to. So she did. She would learn to hold you while she cleaned; she would learn to hold you while she ate; she would even hold you while she slept, because it was the only way she could sometimes. Her arms would get tired, her back would hurt, but she held you still because you wanted to be close to her. She snuggled you, loved you, kissed you and played with you. You felt safe in her arms; you were happy in her arms; you knew you were loved in her arms, so she held you, as often and as long as you needed."
Motherhood is joy and pain in equal measure. Mothers often times try to hide the pain from judging eyes and instead choose to embrace the joy.
Mapping out the safest road for your child is never what you expect it to be.
"It broke her heart every time you cried. There was no sound as sad as your cries, or sight as horrible as the tears streaming down your perfect face. She did all in her power to stop you from crying, and when she couldn't stop your tears, her heart would shatter into a million little pieces."
It's impossible to shield your child from pain in the world. When a child hurts, the mother hurts and nothing in this world is worse then seeing your little one suffering.
Second To None
Babies rely on their mother's for everything, there's not a day that goes by that they cannot grow without the loving touch of their mother.
"She put you first. She went without food, without showers and without sleep. She always put your needs before her own. She would spend all day meeting your needs, and by the end of the day, she would have no energy left for herself. But the next day, she would wake up and do it all over again, because you meant that much to her."
Dedication is the choice that mothers make for their children in order to help them grow and succeed in this world.
It's All Worth It
More and more women are choosing to not have children, begging the question... is it worth it?
"She would do it all again. Being a mom is one of the hardest jobs anyone can do, and it will take you to your very limits sometimes. You cry, you hurt, you try, you fail, you work and you learn. But, you also experience more joy that you thought was possible and feel more love than your heart can contain. Despite all the pain, grief, late nights and early mornings you put your mom through, she would do it all again for you because you are worth it to her. So, next time you see her, tell your mom thank you; let her know that you love her. She can never hear it too many times."
Modern motherhood is hard but totally worth it. Those little moments of a baby's firsts fill mothers with more joy then could have ever thought possible.
A Forever Kind Of Love
Words cannot describe how much being a mother will change your life. Motherhood comes with sacrifices. It will be hard and sometimes seem impossible, but the love between a mother and child is the most precious thing in the world.